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Why some sleep advice might feel insulting to you

We all sleep. It’s a basic human need (and a basic right actually but let’s leave that discussion for another time). But how we sleep differs greatly. Some sleep early, some late. Some sleep longer, others sleep shorter. And some sleep well while others have troubling sleeping. Many perimenopausal women often struggle with sleep. 


Getting the Light Right – It’s a Win-Win, Harvey.

Anyone who is familiar with the series Suits will recognise Harvey Spector’s corner office – all that beautiful light streaming in through the windows, immediately boosting the mood of anyone who enters, increasing alertness and sense of mission. Then the camera moves to the windowless area the legal associates are placed in. They have only a little daylight – it seeps insipidly through the windows in the doors – and their main source of light is artificial. Without it this people are literally in the dark.


Your most burning questions on sleep

What is the most common myth when it comes to sleep?

That everyone needs 8 hours. We need however much sleep we need, and that can differ between people, but it doesn’t mean that we need that exact amount every single night. If you’re someone that tends to sleep 7.5 hours, you don’t always need that much. It’s like eating—there are days when you eat more and days when you eat less. Sleep is not a static thing; it’s quite the opposite. Little kids need a lot of sleep, while older people need a little less (although that’s still debated). Sleep also doesn’t happen in isolation; there’s a day that comes before it, and a day that comes after it so if we don’t sleep exactly the same every single night, that’s ok.


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I wrote Sleep Sense to share my fascination with sleep with all of you. To help you understand why sleep is important for every single one of us. My aim is to empower you to take steps that are right for you to sleep well.

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Things I learned from Vogue Wellness RetreatOne of our hosts shared with us, a thought that resonated with me, and I think it will with you, too! I recognised it in the lives of clients, friends, and as much as I don’t like to admit it, areas of my own life too. That is… the often performative, goal-oriented nature of ‘wellness’ in this day, age and society. The retreat was designed to sit away from this, to help to reclaim ‘joy in the pursuit of wellness’ and not perfection or performance. @funmifetto’s welcome note embodied at least 3 of the values that tie so closely to my sleep practices and that, if you’ve followed me for a little while now, you’ll have heard me speak about often.So here are the reminders I took away from the wellness retreat a couple of weeks ago…🩵There’s power in community.Community is important for health! I’ve spoken about this before (and will pin the post); a woman’s sleep quality is impacted by her social support. Her social life matters to her health.When we feel supported, we feel safe, and our nervous systems allow us to rest more easily.🙃 Joy nurtures our inner child - and that’s important.The benefit of embracing joy and looking after the inner child is that our approach to sleep is eased, it allows us to go into the state of rest with less tension, and carrying fewer ‘should’s’, allowing us to accept what is. A childlike attitude in our day-to-day can support sleep and naturally help to avoid fearing failure, both throughout the day and in finding restful sleep.Ask yourself, “What do I feel like doing?”. 🪷 Goals don’t always help us.Yes, consistently getting a good night’s sleep is the ‘goal’, but going back to Funmi’s note, having a goal-oriented mindset for any wellbeing practice can undo some of the good we’re trying to do, as we chase the end goal and negate the benefits.If we enter the state of rest thinking I must get to sleep and have a good night’s sleep, we’re putting pressure on ourselves, and the likelihood of that happening then reduces. More in the comments ⬇️ ... See MoreSee Less
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